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Some questions answered
Why is this anonymous?
- First off, for reasons unrelated to all this, part of my present work means I don't want to make it too easy
to be identified on the Internet.
Secondly, this is not a vendetta against the people concerned.
Those who know the people directly involved will probably recognise them (and me), but not
the wider public. I altered the names so that they would not turn up in
a casual Internet search. I'm not muck-spreading for the sake of it.
Finally, the aim of these pages is to expose the practices rather than the people involved.
If you think you have a good reason to know the names, get in touch and we'll discuss it.
Isn't telling stories like this a bad witness?
- I believe far more damage is done by hushing up wrongdoing than by speaking out.
If there's a "bad witness" in what went on, it's on the part of the perpetrators, and it would be nice to see this kind of thing stop.
Shouldn't you have forgiven and forgotten?
- If by "forgiveness", you mean letting go of the offence and moving on, this
is something I strive to do constantly. However, I don't believe that means pretending
all this didn't happen. And there can be no reconciliation unless the past is confronted and dealt with.
Let's not confuse forgiveness with denial.
Isn't this just a personality clash?
- No. My personality certainly seems to have clashed with some others', but the
accusation made was not one of personality but of being demonised. In addition,
no attempt whatsoever was made to resolve any differences. There was an agenda
to remove me, and once that had been decided upon, no negotiation was possible.
In addition, I contend that what happened to me was by no means an isolated
incident, but one in a long series of similar events within this movement worldwide.
Doesn't this happen everywhere?
- It's certainly not limited to the movement I was in.
However, I find my own experience particularly serious because this movement
makes a big thing out of not acting like this, claiming to value openness, honesty,
and genuine relationships. It turns out all this talk is a sham.
Is there no good in NewFrontiers?
- There are many committed, upright, and sincere believers, and vibrant,
However, I believe that it is impossible to be fully committed to this movement
without either becoming a victim of spiritual abuse or a perpetrator - sometimes
both. I also believe there are many deluded and self-deluded people.
Where can I find out more about spiritual abuse?
- I was first introduced to the subject by reading the book "The Subtle Power of Spiritual
Abuse" by David Johnson and Jeff Van Vonderen. You can find out more at Jeff's page here